Sleeping - or lack of!!

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Permalink Reply by Clare Good on March 9, 2010 at 16:12

Yes sounds pretty similar to me. I have to admit that the only thing that kept anyone sane was to have my son in bed with us. I realise it isn't a great long term solution but for the first few months was completely invaluable. And he has moved to his own cot just fine so I don't personally believe in that "rod for your own back" phrase. Do what you have to do to get through these first few months and hopefully he'll start to improve soon. I personally was never in the mood for any hanky panky because I was always so dam tired so it didn't really matter if he was there or not!!! Lol!

Intolerances are very common with reflux so it might be a cows milk thing.

Hope he improves soon
xx

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Permalink Reply by Kathryn Shaw on March 9, 2010 at 18:41

Hi, our baby is 6 weeks old and been diagnosed with reflux from about 3 weeks we have had very little sleep from day one and take it in turns sleeping downstairs with our baby as she will very rarely settle in her moses basket one of us usually sleeps with her on the settee as she only really settles on us in an upright position.
During the day she just cat naps as soon as i go to do something you can usually guarantee she will wake up screaming and because she seems to be in such discomfort i don't feel i can leave her to cry for too long.
I do every job as fast as i can to get back to her it's a nightmare!!
I'm sick of people telling me i should try and get some rest in the day, the chance would be a fine thing.
Lets hope things get better soon for all of us x

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Permalink Reply by emma louise kelly on March 9, 2010 at 19:03

It's the same with me - people are always saying try to get some rest in the day, sleep when they sleep. I would but by the time i actually fall asleep (spend half an hour laying there worrying about the reflux) she is awake and screaming again! I have got my shower time down to 7 mins and you can guarantee she cries all the time i'm in there. I sleep mainly on the sofa propped up with pillows, oh to get into bed and stay there for a few hours would be bliss! x

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Permalink Reply by Emma on March 9, 2010 at 19:56

It is so hard isn't it. Had a particularly hard day yesterday as went to a baby massage class as recommended by a health visitor which was a mistake as Zach just cried the whole way through and the rest of the class had babies that were sitting there as good as gold, cooing and smiling. Needless to say I don't think I'll be going back!

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Permalink Reply by Clare Good on March 9, 2010 at 20:23

My son used to sleep in his bouncy chair or occasionally his car seat in order to be propped up. Spent loads of time in a sling attached to my front so he was upright and I could do stuff. Sorry it is so tough for you all. We thankfully seem to be out the other side now - he turned a corner at 15months.
xx

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Permalink Reply by Kathryn Shaw on March 9, 2010 at 21:11

I worry about the reflux alot too i can only relax if she is sleeping on me that way i know she's not choking, i never would have let my first child sleep with me i followed every text book with him but it's different with a baby with reflux i think you just have to do what you can to make life a bit easier.

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Permalink Reply by Wendy Marsh on March 9, 2010 at 20:42

My lo used to only sleep in his bouncy chair so I used to sleep on the sofa next to him and my mum luckily used to give me a break every few nights, he is the only baby I have ever known who even screamed in the car or his pram, eventually I gave up and went to the pushchair so I could have him more upright, it was only after visiting an Osteopath that we finally got him to sleep in his cot on a gradiant. It is only now at 10 months that he is sleeping all night and thats as a result of getting his reflux under control with medication and then doing sleep training with him to teach him how to settle himself.

It does get better but I can remember the 8 - 14 weeks stage well and is was hell!

Wendy x

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Permalink Reply by Belinda on March 10, 2010 at 14:55

Emma/ Oh yeah. tiddler was same for sleeping in the day, Her night sleep was 9pm ish put her down in her cot until she woke at 12.30am, screaming until 2.30am, then going back to sleep till 4am, then would wake and be put in the middle of us, at 14 months old she was diagnosed as dairy intolarent and 16 months wheat/gluten intolarent, sleep improved once she was on a free from diet,,,, she sleeps 9pm till 4am on her own, but wakes has a drink and points at our bed, climbs in the middle of us and within 5 mins is out like a light, As long as we are all getting some sleep I dont see the harm, (You and hubby will have to find a quite spot else where, lol,,,,) Tiddler is now 19 months old. I think from reading a lot of posts on here, sleep is a big problem for most refluxers.

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Permalink Reply by Kerrie Fitzsimons on March 10, 2010 at 19:22

The night time sleep sounds the same - at least we are lucky that our LO slept in the day but always in her pram with the back on an incline, outside (yes in all weathers and we live in Scotland - the whole being snug in a snowsuit, cosy toes, rain cover seems to work - worth a try!?) Oh and if they do wake up and scream for a minute or two you don't always hear them and they most times drift back off themselves!!

Regards nighttime we were having a complete nightmare until we bought an acid reflux pillow for her to sleep on which improved things massively. It's the wedge and velcro harness all-in-one type (currently not on sale on this sponsor site for some reason??) I would recommend giving it a go to anyone. don't get me wrong we are still having a nightmare but more due to not getting the right meds so far (see "8 Months with Reflux and Getting Worse!"). The all-in-one type wedge is great as if she really wasn't settling you just lifted her complete still attached to the wedge in between us two in bed and then cuddled into her/soothed her. It made us feel a bit safer about taking her in with us too as you can't roll onher - my man works shifts and is a really heavy sleeper so this was a worry.

Can't say enough how it helped us and we picked ours up on Ebay pretty cheap too. Oh and sod the bad habit stuff - just get by each day at a time. good luck

Kerrie

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