HI Ginny,
Wow, you have your hands full too don't you. My daughter was a nightmare feeder and screamer too, I had to distract her too to get 3oz in her. Walking about with a bottle in her mouth in front of the tv. She suffered terrible choking spells high temperatures, and it was that reason that we were referred when she was a year old, she had been on Lansoprazole for a year at this point, max amount for reflux. We did see a private allergy specilist when she was 6 months old who put her on neocate saying she had EE.Dr Shah immediatly said she had EGID, as you know eosinophilic gastro intestinal disorder and put her old cetreizine, and nalcrom plus with a dairy, soy, wheat, egg oat and corn free diet, she was never scoped. This made a big difference, although I found her intolerant of artificial sweetners too. She has done great up to feb this year when her hair started to fall out and she started getting temps again and night sweats. She went back on nalcrom but that actually made her worse, both her and her brother are allergic to the gellatin capsule, so she is just on Ketotifen at the moment after having a burst of steroids twice two. But we saw Dr Shah two weeks ago and he did loads of bloods and booked her in for a scope, but he said she will need to go Mesalazine, anti inflammatory.
My son, is worse. When he was born we were told by Dr Shah to be prepared, and he started after two weeks. Reflux drugs made him MUCH worse, terrible diarrhea. I stopped BFing him, and he went on Neocate. After 3 months no imprvement, so we saw Dr Shah privately who put him on streroids for a week, nalcrom and ketotifen. He got a smidge better, but after a month I realised he was really windy after the nalcrom so we stopped that and he got a touch better again. Then much worse so he went for a scope at 5 months. He has inflammation throughout his large bowel with high levels of eosinphilis and clustering. he had a red bottom for months, everytime he poo'd it burnt all of the skin it came into contact with. Thats pretty much how they diagnose it. All this while just on Neocate, I knew solids would be hard. He put him on steroids for 15 days and again he got better, but continued to get diarrhea after eating anything but rice. So, he was put on Sulfasalazine which is the same as Mesalazine and after he has had the dose increased we are finally getting some solids in him. Not much, a bit of melon, banana, rice of all types, carrot chicken and a little pork. So progress, but slow, we have just had three awful nights, he still screams his head of for 2 bottles a night! at nearly a year old. He still sleeps so badly, throwing himself around getting tummy spasms.
No reason what causes this, apart from my husband has crohn's, although Dr Shah thinks he may have eosinophilia as well. Dr Shah said these kids react to evertyhing, mine are allergic to pollen, my son comes out in a rash when crawling on grass. He said that anything that goes on the skin filters into the blood, which then crosses over to the bowel, this causing the reaction. Sadly some of these kids have this, like your Stella and my son. They need to be on long term meds until thing calm down. Ketotifen is also suppose to be great, it also has a anti inflammatory effect on the bowel.
There is another drug they use, Azothiaprin which is an auto immune drug. You would need weekly bloods ont his though. My son needs 3 monthly bloods as well. These aren't drugs to be taken lightly, but serious colitis can be very dangerous too.
Can't you ask to be referred to Dr Shah on the NHS and let him take over?
I really like Dr Shah, the other week I was due to see him with both kids, and his secretary rang to say he had to go out and couldn't do the afternoon clinic, but asked specifically to see us and for us to come in early. Ahhhh... I thought that was very nice, on the NHS too., although guess we have paid to see him a few times but he said it was cause we are a complicated lot!
C x