Does my daughter now have an aversion to the bottle or just hates sucking!!!

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Permalink Reply by ann taylor on March 8, 2010 at 10:20am

we had the same problem, abi the minute she was born gagged on the bottle and the dummy, she only ever took 30z, if you interupted that feed she would not have the botle in her mouth, at all and then would no feed, she hates milk full stop will drink black current juice though it is a nightmare, dont wait keep pushing ask for an OT referral and to speach and language it is such a struggle and the professionals look at you like your mad, daft or got munchousans disorder, i feel for you i do, if it perists ask for calcuim drops and just forget the milk, take care ann

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Permalink Reply by Sian Thomas on March 8, 2010 at 10:36am

i would love to drop the milk altogether and i would if she would take juice, but she just wont take that in a bottle or a cfup either, i feel like im gonna break down soon i cant cope with seeing my little girl like this, im due to see my peadiatrician in 3 weeks and i cant wait till then as she will have lost lots of weight by then, she must burn more calories wriggling away from the bottle than she is taking.
She takes food no problem as long as she has not had milk first but then i cant let her dehydrate, she is so happy when not feeding and this just worries me more!!
Wish someone had a magic wand, thanks for your advice though x

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Permalink Reply by Kathryn Shaw on March 8, 2010 at 10:24am

I feel for you i have only been through this for 6 weeks but it does get you down especially when you think you are getting somewhere and get your hopes up that a formula or medication is going to work and then you end up back where you started.
I get so fed up of waiting to see my health visitor as the time between visits does seem a long time when you are at the end of your tether i don't care anymore i just keep ringing her when i need advice failing that get a doctors appointment its the only way to make people realise you need something doing.
Its no wonder poor babies lose interest in feeding it's feeding thats caused them all the pain and discomfort i don't know about you but feeding becomes an issue myself it no longer is the enjoyable experience that it should be.
I hope your little one gets better and things become easier for you.

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Permalink Reply by a mummy on March 8, 2010 at 11:48am

hi
me again.
My girl as I told u previously hates her bottle too, but is perfectly capable of taking a good feed if and when it suits her.
I know its easier said than done but try not to stress about this too much. Your daughter is content and sleeping well outwith feeding times so nothing can be that wrong really, dont get me wrong I have sat in tears along with my daughter a few times and lost the rag as well but at the end of the day if she dont want it she aint gonna take it and that is that and I think sometimes I have made matters worse by trying to force the issue which I will try never to do again.

My daughter is an air swallower and that became apparent from her barium meal do you think it could be that ? that would certainly cause a bit of discomfort and put her off her swallowing. My paed was very laid back with me and I told him how stressed I was with her not gaining weight but he seemed to think she was fine and weaning would help. Funnily enough my middle daughter did not really like her milk that much either but she gained weight and there was no screaming she just turned her head away or went to sleep so there was no issue but really she was taking very little from 7 months onwards. She was not great with the baby foods either but when she discovered happy meals well lets just say they are appropriately named !!
If your daughter was hungry or in pain she would let you know, she might just not need a lot of food which I am trying to convince myself is the same as my daughter. If she takes her food ok you can mix it with the formula and she will get some liquid.
Good luck

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Permalink Reply by Sian Thomas on March 8, 2010 at 12:24pm

have you tried your little one with juice? my litlle one has only had 5oz of milk all day and 1/2oz of juice surely she will end up dehydrated eventually, how much milk does yours take in a day, how much does she weigh now and how old is she, my little one takes well some days and not others, she definately has an intolerance as since changing her milk she has stopped wheezing and her excema has got better on her face, but i cut a bottle out this morning and gave her a fruit pot which she loved but would take no juice with it so i feel like im banging my head against a wall, i cut out a bottle to give myself some relief and she is just same with juice argh!!!

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Permalink Reply by a mummy on March 8, 2010 at 7:26pm

hi again as I said before the similarities with our daughters is uncanny.
I have given only water to my lo which she took ok but shes a bit choky with it. With regards to milk it varies hugely. The average is about 4-5 oz per feed, just 4 a day, but she can take between 7and 8 oz if it suits her and some feeds I really struggle to get anything in at all. An average day is about 20oz but some bad days have been around 12 or less. I went to the doctor about the screaming and refusing feeds when she was about 5 weeks old but she was gaining weight well then and they told me it was colic and to wait till she was 12 weeks before doing anything. Anyway her symptoms got worse around this time and they then realised her growth pattern had dipped from the 75th centile to the 25th and started to take me seriously. I was then given ranitidine which I would say has really helped but things are still not great.
She now weighs 12lb 8 oz ish and is in the bottom 9th centile which is a drastic change but as my paed is not too worried I am trying not to be. It has been very hard but I feel things are better than they were or maybe I am just starting to chill out a bit as the little ones sleeping and crying has vastly improved. She seems to be getting used to the baby rice and purees after a couple of days crying with them so I am trying not to get hung up on the milk as I was getting obsessive with the ounces and all that.
Just let your daughter lead the way and it should get better for you it can only get easier at this stage. Fingers crossed anyway.
As I said before she must be content or she would totally let u know.!!!

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Permalink Reply by Sian Thomas on March 8, 2010 at 8:38pm

today has just been an awful day one of the worst ever, she only took 6oz and im worried she is going to dehydrate, poor thing whe has screamed on every bottle after only an oz, her last feed was 6.30pm and she took 2oz she is now fast asleep in bed as i tried to feed her at 8.30 and she would not have anything, ehy have changed her to aptamil pepti although im sure its making her worse, i rang the pead and they said i have to give it 4 week, not sure how the hell im supposed to do that, think i have cried for most of the day today lol!! my poor little boy keeps asking me what is wrong!
im crossing my fingers that tomorrow is a better day cause i cant cope with a day like today again! Thanks for the advice ill try my best not to worry but its hard!!

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Permalink Reply by a mummy on March 8, 2010 at 8:51pm

Tomorrow is a new day. Anything can put sensitive babies off their bottles, injections, growth spurts, tiredness, a cold, teething etc etc. She wouldnt be sleeping soundly if she was hungry, thirsty or in pain.
She will probably wake up looking like a little angel tomorrow and all this stress will be forgotten about. Fingers and toes crossed eh.
I am just going to wake my lo for a feed. She wont even dream feed she is that determined.
Have a peaceful night everyone !!

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