Am i ever going to be able to enjoy my new baby?

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Permalink Reply by Kerrie Fitzsimons on March 12, 2010 at 7:39pm

Kathryn I don't have any advice for you but my heart really goes out to you - you are having such a terrible terrible time I just wanted to let you know that ALL the women on the forum here are here to support you and help you through this bad time. It's so hard for anyone else to know what you are going through, even close relatives and friends but we do. Am so sorry for you but you WILL get through this and be a stronger person the other side. If it's any consolation my older child had a terrible start in life with 2 operations, 1 going septic, before he was 12 weeks old, reflux (mild) and milk intolerance and he is such a strong non-complaining child and has a high pain threshhold to boot - I believe although horrible it made him stronger too.

We are all thinking of you and the very best of luck with your operation

Kerrie x

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Permalink Reply by sarah jacks on March 12, 2010 at 7:52pm

Kathryn I really feel for you. I suffered severe postpartum hemorrhages with both my youngest and they were awful. I remember fainting and sitting in the bath with the midwife then on a drip. .Last week I had a large bleed due to return of periods and an now on tabs to stem this but you know anything could be left inside.
My friend had this same problem after the birth of her fourth child, with the remains of the placenta left in back in 1999 and she had an op similar to a d and c and a blood transfusion. I do know she was in hospital for a few days and had to have iron tabs for yonks for anemia like myself.
She did recover quite quickly although was a bit weak for a few days after .
You are right to feel let down - the midwives are trained to examine the placenta to check its intact for this very reason. I am not surprised they've made a mistake with you as the state of the care on my labour and ante natal wards alone was abysmal. I know you must be feeling so stressed what with your bubba as well but hang on in there , you are only human and can do your best. Heres wishing you a speedy recovery.xxxx

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Permalink Reply by Kathryn Shaw on March 12, 2010 at 9:23pm

Thank you both for your lovely kind messages i'm sure once i've got this sorted tomorrow things will get better and i'll get stronger just feel so fed up at the moment but its nice to know there are people on here that know what i'm going through and understand.
To top things off the last couple of days while i've been in hospital relatives have been looking after my baby and guess what she's been as good as gold even sleeping in her moses basket in the day between feeds. Makes me look like i've imagined it all i'm sure everyone thinks i'm going nuts and my baby's fine.

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Permalink Reply by Kerrie Fitzsimons on March 12, 2010 at 9:42pm

Not at all and don't think that - remember babies are very good at sensing stress from those they love the most and that's us!! So maybe the break will do you both good. An who cares ifthey think you are a nutter at least we know you're not!! Just kidding - they won't be thinking that at all! Iv'e found myself being over-sensitive to every comment people make and it;s all part of the tiredness and stress - we'll ALL look back one day and wonder what all the fuss was about - i'll tell you what though - that day can't come soon enough for me!!!

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